If you see me tomorrow just know there’s a chance I might look a little tired. One of the things I’m thankful for today might prevent me from getting ay sleep tonight. I even pitched it to a group of my friends that way. The response was spot on “That sounds a lot like, ‘this tastes terrible, you’ve got to try it!'” With that mini-disclaimer in mind, feel free to listen but know you’ve been warned.

I’m a huge fan of Dan Carlin. His Hardcore History podcasts are outstanding. Never in my life would I ever have thought I would find history so enthralling. When Dan shares what he’s learned in his research it helps me see the world a little differently. There have been many lessons I’ve learned through his podcasts. Heck, I even blogged about it almost a year and a half ago: https://thankful4forty.com/2019/03/20/day-903-thankful-for-dan-carlins-hardcore-history/

Imagine my surprise this morning when one of my friends told a few of us there was a great podcast we should check out. I’m always open to hearing new thoughts so I clicked on it and it led me to one of Dan Carlin’s other works, Common Sense. I had no idea there was a mother podcast! Clear my blog queue, there’s been an addition to the front of the line.

The podcast that left me thinking nervously about the state of our nation can be found here: https://www.dancarlin.com/product/common-sense-320-steering-into-the-iceberg

As an independent I was very interested in his thoughts and I’m glad I gave it a listen. There were several points in particular that caught my attention and helped me look at the world through a slightly different lens. It also left me with some nervousness and paranoia of what we may face as a nation in the not too distant future. Rather than get into the details I’ll leave it at this. Long story short, it was incredibly well thought, well said, and very thought provoking. I’d highly recommend it (you might want to make sure you have a supply of melatonin to help you sleep through the night afterwards!)

Big kudos to my friend Todd for sharing this today! I’m thankful for having a few groups of friends who are willing to share thought provoking reads and podcasts like that. We may not always agree, but we all seem to always get a little more wise after each of those interactions. Thanks for sharing dude!

Thanks!!!

Today I remembered to take my own advice and brought a book with me to the soccer fields. There were a few things on my mind that I wanted to spend some time in thought on. After a quick thought I put my copy of Meditations by Marcus Aurelius into the pocket of my cargo shorts and I was off. Not gonna lie, I was pretty excited to find that the book was just the right size!

Instead of just going back to where I’d left off the last time I figured I’d test fate and skim a few random pages to see what, if anything, stuck a chord. Within a couple of minutes I ran into what I was looking for and then some! All within three pages was the ark I was searching for.

First off, there was a great bit of info discussing how we turn our obstacles and frustrations into fuel to improve and grow:

Our inward power, when it obeys nature, reacts to events by accommodating itself to what it faces – to what is possible. It needs no specific material. It pursues its own aims as circumstances allow; it turns obstacles into fuel. As a fire it overwhelms what would have quenched a lamp. What’s thrown on top of the conflagration is absorbed, consumed by it – and makes it burn still higher.

Shortly afterwards Marcus shared an interesting thought that helped me remember to seek out those moments of solitude. Not only that, but I was reminded of how to find that tranquility I’ve found on vacations in the past. Obviously those are a no go as of now, but there are still ways I can utilize my vacation memories in very positive ways:

People try to get away from it all – to the country, to the beach, to the mountains. You always wish that you could too. Which is idiotic: you can get away from it anytime you like.

By going within.

Nowhere you can go is more peaceful – more free of interruptions – than your own soul. Especially if you have other things to rely on. An instant’s recollection and there it is: complete tranquility. And by tranquility I mean a kind of harmony.

So keep getting away from it all – like that. Renew yourself. But keep it brief and basic. A quick visit should be enough to ward off all and send you back ready to face what awaits you.

I took a page out of his playbook, put the bookmark in place, and closed the book. I closed my eyes, drew in a deep breath, and thought about being in Alaska. I brought to mind the moment when we were sitting on the beach, watching the sun slowly go down over the mountains behind Resurrection Bay. Talk about inner peace!

When I came back to reality I opened up the book and went back to reading. This next one hit home as I thought about some of the thought processes I’ve recently had related to politics and civil unrest. I’ve been frustrated often and have complained more than I should. In reading this it reminded me to take a deep breath. As I read later as well I considered my thoughts as of late and wondered if I would have the same if I knew my last day of life were tomorrow. Absolutely not. So, if tomorrow is promised no one, why am I worried and complaining about something out of my control? How foolish and wasteful of the precious gift was all have been given? The gift? Today. Now. The present.

What’s there to complain about? People’s misbehavior? But take into consideration:

• That rational beings exist for one another;

• That doing what’s right sometimes requires patience;

• That no one does the wrong thing deliberately;

• And the number of people who have feuded and envied and hated and fought and died and been buried;

…and keep your mouth shut.

I was about to stop reading after that last line as my brain was reaching capacity. As I’ve admitted to, I have “Shiny Syndrome” and I caught something shiny on the next page. Highlighted from one of the many past readings of this books was the following:

Choose not to be harmed – and you won’t feel harmed.

Don’t feel harmed – and you haven’t been.

Bingo! There’s the money! I have control over only one thing in my life, how I view the world around me. I cannot control the events of the world, the thoughts of others, or anything along those lines. What I can control is how I react to, respond to, and interpret those outside factors.

Once I pieced everything back together I realized how some of the difficult decisions and situations in my life have all had one very critical and important common theme… they all have made me stronger. I would not be who I am today without the adversity I have faced. I am grateful for each of those moments. While they have hurt in the moment they have been the source of all strength.

Today I’m thankful for the timeless wisdom of Marcus Aurelius. The tremendous impact he has had on me and so many others since his life is overwhelming and inspiring.

Thanks!!!

A while back Steve and I talked about doing a camping trip on the river via kayaks. We all know sometimes life doesn’t quite follow the script we wrote so we were pumped to make the best of what we could – an all day kayak trip.

Becky was a great sport and woke up early specifically to drop us off 45 minutes or so northeast of La Crosse at North Bend. At about 7am in temps just below 40 degrees we got in our kayaks and headed out.

Thanks to the cold air and warm water steam rose form the water to create some surreal moments. We scared a bald eagle and it seemed to dissipate into a ghost as it flew into the steam. The rising sun shot bolts of brightness through the gaps to create a dreamlike landscape.

…and then Steve told me the back of my kayak was sinking.

Yup, you read that correctly. Somehow the drain plug had gone missing and due to my body weight pretty much maxing out the kayak and the weight of gear I had stored behind me the back of the kayak was just barely below water. As more water defied physics and rushed into the little 1/2 inch hole faster than earthly possible the back end then continued to sink.

I paddled hard towards shore and tried to find a sandbar. By the time I was aground I was sitting in a few inches of water. Did I mention that it was a little below 40 degrees? All we could do was laugh it off and fix the situation. In talking later we both discovered we have the same sense of impending doom and did our best to laugh through it. All was good afterwards and we were back on our way.

The rest of the trip was amazing. Spending time on the water is always serene, but this was even more so than usual. For the first two dozen miles we didn’t see a single there person on the water! It was just us paddling alongside countless eagles, herons, and even a young buck. Totally chill…

By the time we’d reached the end we had paddled 30 miles over the course of ten and a half hours. Not too shabby!

So here’s what I’m most grateful for today – the all day kayak trip. It provided time with a great friend. It was time spent entirely outside enjoying the area we live in. It was physically demanding. It was a blast. It was an experience I’ll never forget (especially paddling ‘uphill’ as my back end sunk!). So much awesomeness to be thankful for.

Thanks!!!

Ahh… the first fall run of the year… always feels great! Sure, it wasn’t the first true autumn run of the year, but it certainly seemed like it. The air was cool and crisp. The humidity was nonexistent. There wasn’t a cloud in the sky. The stars lit up the sky. The rest of the world slept as we enjoyed the quiet and chill of autumn. Talk about peaceful and relaxing. Of all the seasons to run in the fall is my favorite. This morning was dang near the perfect running weather and I was thankful for each and every beautiful step of it.

While we were running I caught a glimpse of a satellite going across the sky. I pointed it out to Becky and we stopped for a second to watch it. She suddenly pointed west and said “there’s another one!” How crazy is that? Two satellites! But it didn’t stop there…

When I looked close there was another satellite trailing right behind the second… and then another… and another… and they just kept streaming across the sky in a row. Once we to home I confirmed what we’d seen – the SpaceX Starlink satellites. Talk about something wild! Never in my life had I witnessed something quite like that!

Thanks!!!

Hmm… I kind of feel obligated to start with the most unlikely of the gratitudes this evening, but I think I’ll save that one for the end.

Most of today was spent with a couple of my business partners. We used the time to hit the pause button on the normal busy-ness of the day and take a step back. While there wasn’t a formal agenda it was the source of some interesting insights. Looking forward to the next year or several there are some opportunities that I hadn’t quite seen. There were some old solutions ready to be rolled out again in new ways. Long story short, I am grateful for the reminder to take time in thought. Had I not paused I would have continued to stay focused on only the present and very near future. By taking time to think and see how everything fits I am able to spend time setting us up for future successes bigger than those we’re currently having.

Throughout the day I was reminded of the power of staying calm. The Daily Stoic email this morning talked of remembering to stay calm. During our training time today I shared a story in which a mentor exhibited extreme calm in the face of a storm; so much so that I still remember it clearly over 20 years later. Calm, the practice of settling the limbic brain down, taking a deep breath, and focusing on logic. If I can remain calm I can survive any situation. So easy to do in a vacuum and so difficult to practice in reality. Each of those reminders have reinforced my focus on continuing to practice calm.

While typing the last paragraph there was an inspiring incident that caught my attention and belongs in my blog tonight. I’m sitting in the car typing on my iPad Mini using a mini keyboard as I wait for Gavin’s soccer practice to wrap up. I pause for a second and see the boys running. There’s a brief note of music and instantaneously all the boys and their coach stop, stand up straight, face Southeast, and put their right hands over their heart. The high school soccer game was about to start and they were playing the National Anthem a few fields away.

To be clear, I don’t mind if anyone is standing or kneeling, everyone has their own thoughts on that. What I found awesome was that in that instant everyone paused, focused their attention on the flag, and were Americans together. No issues with politics, no disagreements about anything, or anything else along those lines. They were all Americans together as one. How perfect is that? Maybe it’s just me, but it seems like this is what our nation could use right now more than ever. I’m thankful for being there to see it, it helped to rekindle my hope.

Last, but certainly not least, I’m grateful for frozen pizza. How this stayed off my blog for this long I really have no idea! Okay, so it’s not as deep and serious as the last parts of my blog, but c’mon… it’s frozen pizza! Any entire delicious meal in one easy to cook package. If there was only one food I could eat for the rest of my life and it had to be something with less than 15 minutes of prep time this would be it.

Thanks!!!

One of my favorite parts of my career path is the opportunity to tour many local manufacturers. In order to help place people in the right career opportunities we tour the facility to see exactly what and how the candidates will do their job. This gives us a chance to make sure everything is safe and also to be able to better describe it to a job seeker.

While it is intended to serve a business purpose it also scratches my curiosity itch. Seeing how things are manufactured blows my mind. Sure, there are TV shows like How It’s Made, but to actually see it in person is awesome!

Over the past couple of decades I’ve seen things from gummy bears to baseball bats to canoes to military surveillance devices to hard drives to train axle lubricators to the orange flexible posts that hold up highway signs to music books to violin bows to air tight cello cases. And that’s just the tip of the iceberg! I’d bet I’ve toured over 200 different manufacturers in my career with Express and each has produced something very different.

Today I had to opportunity to tour two different manufacturers with some of our teammates and I was smiling from ear to ear. In some cases I have try to tone down the excitement a little as I’m so amped up! Crazy right?

Each time I tour a business my inner child gets crazy giddy at the prospect of seeing how something new is made. What processes are used? What materials are used? Why this instead of that? How do you manage supply line and forecast upcoming demand? Why is the operation laid out like it is? So many questions I want to ask to learn more about how they produce their products.

Thank you to all of the businesses who’ve blessed me with the opportunity to satisfy my child like senses of curiosity and wonder – I appreciate those moments greatly!

Thanks!!!

It seems like there always several pockets of gap time in each week. You know, those moments in the day when you’re going from one thing to the next and things don’t quite line up resulting in an extra gap of time. For me it’s often that time in-between dropping off Gavin at soccer and picking him up. By the time we drop him off it’s kind of on the fence whether or not it’s productive to head home. That’s the gap time I’m talking about.

I’ve tried a few handfuls of ways to plug the gap, and some have been more successful than others.

Unfortunately my default, even with training myself on it, has been to go to my phone. It’s right there, always ready, and always seems to find a way to grab my attention for more time than I would like it to. When I just react to the gap and am not prepared for it my phone is still the default script I’m working on re-coding.

One that has worked very well situationally is bringing book everywhere with me. Finding the right types of books to quickly open up and take in small doses is key… as is finding one with a small profile. Hauling a novel around is difficult, Meditations by Marcus Aurelius or The Obstacle is the Way by Ryan Holiday are about as big as I want. Spending time lost in a book and then letting the ideas and thoughts sink in is about perfect. Thank you Mr. Stephen King for helping me with that one.

If the location is right I’m easily lost in chilling and enjoying the view. This works so well when I’m sitting by a lake or river or forest or anything peaceful like that. Taking that gap time to remember why I so love living in this area is another great use of those bonus minutes.

Dominic and I have found it to be just enough time to sneak in a workout which has been pretty awesome. Not only does it provide extra exercise time, it is an opportunity for the two of just to bond and reconnect during the day.

Becky had a great idea for the gap time tonight. Instead of chilling we went for an awesome walk near the soccer fields while Gavin practiced. Spending time with just the two of us while being active and taking in the crazy copper colored sun was so relaxing and rewarding all at the same time.

I’m so thankful for finding ways to turn gap time into bonus time. Either way I look at it the time is going to be spent, I may as well look at it as a bonus and be thankful for it. This moments are often when some of my best thinking happens. In some ways I almost need to find more ways to cause a little gap time to happen on purpose to give myself a little more space… hmm…

Thanks!!!

Dominic and I had a good chunk of time with just the two of us tonight. I’m so grateful for the times when he’s in a talkative mood like he was tonight, I’ll soak those moments up as much as possible.

During our conversation tonight we covered a ton of topics, some weighty but most fun. One of the parts I enjoyed the most was listening to Dominic think out loud about the places in the world he’d most like to go back to visit and why. He even mentioned possible interest in living in some of them. The reason I’m grateful for that part of the conversation specifically is threefold.

First off, I’m glad we’ve traveled with the boys to help them see how big the world is and how much there is to explore. Hearing him share the differences between stargazing in Hawaii and Utah (which he hasn’t been to yet) and comparing parts of Australia, New Zealand, and Alaska. Hearing him use his experience to see the grandeur of the planet makes me smile from ear to ear.

Second, when he speaks of it he expresses his heartfelt gratitude for the opportunities and blessings he’s had to have had these experiences. Dominic understands that these are possible of hard work, sacrifice, luck, and, most importantly, from dreaming big. Hearing him speak in almost reverent tones about those experiences makes him sound wise beyond his years.

Last, I’m so glad that he sees life as a gift to be enjoyed and appreciated and the entire world as limitless opportunities. When Dominic is thinking about living out his life he’s not confining himself to one city, state, country or even continent. He’s seeing that where he lives is his choice to make as opposed to a predestined location. I remember dreaming of moving out west and living in the mountains. While I didn’t (at least not yet) there was a magic in knowing that I was choosing where to live that helps to change my perspective to one of positivity. Knowing that he’s already on that train of thought is awesome. His life is his choice, not his obligation.

All of that talk with him coupled with our recent Scouting canoe trip got me more excited for the next mini-adventure. In the not too distant future I’m heading out on a kayak / camping trip for a couple of days. With the wind in my sails I spent more time than I expected tonight going over plans and packing. My goal is to go as minimal as possible (though not as minimal as the Dollar Store Challenge earlier this year). That said, I’m grateful for melding a handful of ideas and experiences together into a experience that is socially distant and yet fun.

Thinking of that specifically, my post from yesterday inspired me to keep looking for more pockets of normal and then I realized I may have been looking at this a little incorrectly. I should really be looking for pockets of awesome in the present, regardless of how it is shaped. In every moment of life there are limiting factors. Some are real, others are largely imagined. If I stay focused on my purpose and my dreams I can find a way to make magic in almost any moment, it is up to me to find it, make the most of the moment and to appreciate it. My big takeaway is that I need to stop comparing now to then as then has past and now is all that exists (though not at the expense of screwing up the potential future). Hmm… That hit home more than I thought. How much time have I wasted comparing now to a time that no longer exists? This will definitely stay top of mind for a while…

Thanks!!!

Ahh… not gonna lie, this view is amazing in so many ways.

Sitting on a lawn chair, outside in perfect weather, and watching Gavin do something he loves. Sure, I could focus instead on the chairs being 8-12’ away from the nearest parent and having to lower my mask and then putting it back on to take drinks of coffee, but what would that accomplish? I consider myself blessed to have the opportunity to spend time enjoying both the day and Gavin enjoying life. What a beautiful slice of heaven!

What’s funny is that there are these little pockets of normalcy to be found all around in life. They may take a little more work to find as my eyes aren’t necessarily trained to see them yet, but they are all around nonetheless. I find it easy to slide into a fixed mindset and see only obstacles, but if I pause for a second to look at the world through a growth mindset there are opportunities everywhere. Be it Zoom calls with friends, outdoor sports, spending time outside with family, and so on, there are pockets of normalcy all around, I just need to remember to actively seek them out.

Yesterday was the five year anniversary of the weekend we built the treehouse for the boys with Dad. This morning I had to run to Menards to pick up a saw blade for my table saw. The first option I had in hand was the all purpose inexpensive one. In an instant I remembered advice from Dad from back in the day. He’d told me to replace my saw blade more often than I thought I should, buy the right blade for the right job, and never buy the cheapest one (& almost never buy the most expensive either). I put the saw blade down and ended up buying three different ones for all the projects I have and invested in the high quality blades instead. While I didn’t want to spend that much I know my projects will be better and my stress level will be lower thanks to his advice.

Thanks!!!

What a day it’s been! The morning started off with a run, moved into canoeing, and ended with a Court of Honor. No wonder I’m exhausted right now!

I’m thankful for the run Becky and I got in this morning for a few reasons. First off, the weather wasn’t supposed to cooperate per the forecasts we’d seen last night so we thought there’d be no chance. As luck would have it the rain ended a little before our run and all we got was a light misting. Second, I really wanted to just go back to bed this morning. Days like this when I get my but in gear even when I don’t want to are the ones that feel incredibly rewarding (thanks Becky!). Last, nothing like a good dose of exercise to kick off the day!

The Scouts continue to impress me with finding ways to keep the kids safe and socially distant. Today’s endeavor included a canoeing / kayaking trip. We paddled along with them down the Black River and had a ton of fun for the entire 13+ mile ride. It’s been a while since I’ve been canoeing, I forgot the differences between paddling in a kayak versus a canoe and this was a welcome change of pace. Being in a canoe always brings back wonderful memories of trapping with Dad as we’d paddle from set to set. Being able to do this and see how much fun my boys were having with it was awesome. Even though I’ve lived here for a couple of decades I continue to find reasons why I’m so in love with this area. Paddling today was a great reminder of that.

After the canoeing and kayaking adventure was complete we wrapped up our evening with the Scouts at their Court of Honor. Throughout the pandemic they’ve held off on doing them as they’re best done in person. Tonight it was held outside at the fire bowl and everyone sat around with well over 6 feet from the next nearest person. As the Scouts would get called down to receive their awards their masks were on. Handshakes were replaced with elbow bumps. Outside of that everything else was normal… kind of.

They boys have been crazy productive on their merit badges since COVID started. Seeing as there hadn’t been a court of honor since before then they’ve gotten a stockpile of earned merit badges saved up. Tonight they each got 10+ merit badges – that’s crazy! Seeing them receive a huge stack of reward for their hard work made me so proud. I’m so thankful for how much they’ve worked on the merit badges throughout the past handful of months.

Now it’s time for this dude to crash. A morning run, a canoe trip, and a court of honor… I’m grateful for those three big things that highlighted by day and also for all the moments in between that rounded out the day.

Thanks!!!