Another year of scouting is in the books! Tonight we closed up with a scavenger hunt in downtown La Crosse. Somehow we ended up at The Pearl for ice cream 😄!
I am thankful for days like today. The days when I struggle to find one thing to find one thing to be grateful for due to the many choices I have. When I sum it all up, today was an excellent end of the long weekend at home.
Here’s some of the highlights from today:
- 8:15am yoga with Becky to kick things off
- Got an Early Father’s Day present – an oscillating spindle sander
- My wallet and phone were still on the cart in the Menards parking lot about 15 minutes after I forgot them there
- Cut out my first cobra bandsaw box (with minimal swearing)
- Went for a walk with the family
- Talked about our next vacation plans while on the walk
- Helped Dominic finish his workbench
- Finished the last few items from my To Do list for the weekend
- Enjoyed watching The Matrix with my boys
It was about the perfect end to a long weekend at home!
It’s not often that we have a Sunday in which all of us are home, there’s no agenda, and there’s just chillin’ on tap. Even though it was a very productive day it was totally relaxing. The things I wanted to do I did, and it felt great. LuLu’s smile below pretty much sums up the day!
One of the highlights was having time to work with both the boys in the workshop. Gavin made a bench for his workbench and Dominic cut all the lumber for his workbench. It was awesome, Dominic was measuring and cutting his own wood, no help from Dad needed – how cool is that?
And moments like that are why I’m thankful for a quiet day at home. It was awesome to not be rushing or hustling to get stuff done because we don’t have any other time. We were able to enjoy time as a family, and alone, doing exactly what we wanted.
Earlier this week Becky had the great idea to have a date night this weekend. We did and it was awesome! Dinner at Lovechild downtown La Crosse followed up with drinks at Unwined in downtown Onalaska.
Having time to just the two of us to relax, chill, and plan our next vacations was exactly what we needed. We may not have had the excitement of taking the reservations of the Tripplehorns, but we had a great time regardless (if you don’t get that you really need to watch the movie Date Night).
I’ve been looking to the later part of this evening for a long time. After a long day of work it’s finally time to chill on the couch, eat popcorn with the boys, and watch Tommy Boy! Eventually go to bed, wake up whenever I can’t sleep anymore, and then do whatever I feel like… no agenda… only a loose list of things that would be nice to get done, and all of them are things in looking forward to doing.
It doesn’t get any better than that!
Ahh… nothing like the end of the year packet of Gavin’s art projects coming home to make me smile and wince at the same time! Each year there’s one or two things that crack me up and this year didn’t disappoint.
Any guesses what this is?
While he may drive me absolutely bonkers sometimes I can’t help but love the kid and be thankful for his slightly twisted creativity.
Over the past few days I’ve fired up an old favorite audio book of mine (okay, it’s not really very old but it’s still a favorite) – Presence by Amy Cuddy. I’ve you’ve ever had any self confidence issues, this is one hell of a read. The book itself is incredible, while I could give you my summary it’s better hearing the concept from her directly in the TED Talk below.
One of the most important topics that she covers, in my opinion at least, is the concept of Impostor Syndrome. In short, here’s the definition:
“Impostor syndrome is a concept describing high-achieving individuals who are marked by an inability to internalize their accomplishments and a persistent fear of being exposed as a “fraud”.
For most of my professional career I’ve struggled and continue to struggle with this. There have been many occasions in which I’ve had that little voice in the back of my head telling me, “You’re not supposed to be here, you’re not this good, they’re all smarter than you, it’s all luck that’s gotten me to where I am, pretty soon I’m going to screw up and everyone is going to know it.”
To be clear, I know that I am successful and that I have earned most of my success through hard work. That said, I struggle to beat that little voice down when it starts to speak up. It seems to come up at the most inopportune times, like at the beginning of a presentation, while sharing a business strategy, and while working with my peers. When that voice starts to speak up I have started to learn tricks to fight it back. I use the mental tripwire of saying “flip the switch” to shut it up before it starts to whisper in my ear. I use interrogative self-talk to remind myself of the times I’ve been successful in that specific situation. There’s a few emails and old homilies that I read to remind me to be strong, to remember that I have had success. Since reading Presence I’ve used power poses to trick my brain out into being more confident that the voice in my head wants me to be. It doesn’t always work, but I can usually start to fight that voice off.
Sometimes it doesn’t work and I can slump into a spiral or slip into a fixed mindset to try to help myself grasp onto the little confidence I have at the time… exactly what I don’t want to have happen. If I’m honest with myself the times when I slip into a fixed mindset are typically due to that little voice, the Impostor Syndrome. When I fail at containing it I reflect on how it won and then find ways to prevent it from happening again.
One of the reasons that I really appreciated Bruce Sprinsteen’s autobiography was his incredibly honest admission of having similar challenges. He talks about one concert in which he wasn’t completely present and the little voice got the best of him.
Today I’m thankful for Amy Cuddy focusing on this topic and helping me give a name to something that I’ve struggled with, not knowing what it was. The reason I bring this topic up today isn’t for anyone to feel bad for me, it’s to get it off my chest and to help others who may wonder why they sometimes feel the way they do. It can happen to all of us, and the best part is that we can all learn to beat it!