Where do I start today? Throughout the day I’ve been smiling and laughing, productive and relaxed. I stayed in the moment and also took time to dream of the future. I feel very satisfied today in all aspects of life. Not too shabby!
After all the heat and humidity we’ve had recently the gloomy sweatshirt weather felt amazing. Waking up to the clouds was kind of nice, they let me sleep in a little longer than normal. We spent much more time than normal on the deck enjoying the fresh air. Going for our evening walk while wearing a long sleeve shirt was a welcome change of pace.
This morning I spent some time getting some things done for work while Becky completed her yoga session. I was largely focused on finishing up a presentation for our team on our last chapter of Mindset. Spending time right away in the morning thinking on a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset really got my head in a great place. Having a little humor mixed in made it even more fun.
The three of us spent some time cleaning the house. We were all doing something different, but still working together with the music of Bruce Springsteen as a wonderful soundtrack. The act of cleaning felt almost therapeutic. Being productive and seeing the immediate results provided a great sense of accomplishment.
After lunch and a couple of errands we played some games out on the deck. The temperature was perfect. The time spent together was filled with smiles, laughs, and small talk. There may have been some Nerf guns utilized for squirrel removal, but I can neither confirm nor deny that.
We all kind of split off and did our own things for a while after games. Dominic had a Scout meeting and Becky and I each found some relaxing things to keep us busy. We made supper and ate as a family right back on the deck before heading out for our nightly tradition of a walk.
Once home we wrapped up some other stuff and fired up a movie. Becky didn’t make it all the way through, but she was laughing with us until she headed off to bed. Dominic and I continued to laugh until a few minute ago before I started typing. It was great to relive old stories and memories while seeing just how much of some of them he’s already either started or will be living in the not too distant future.
Now it’s off to bed and then wake up for a run and start the week. I’m looking forward to work tomorrow, to my day tomorrow, and to everything. My soul is totally at peace in a subtle way that feels amazing. That’s something I can be very grateful for today.
This afternoon I finished reading the last chapter of Becky’s PhD thesis. Several facts were readily apparent:
Becky is ridiculously intelligence in science is readily apparent – though her judgement in choice of spouse is still questionable 😉
In order to even begin to understand what she researched I needed to read each sentence a minimum of two times.
The work ethic, rigor, and grit it took for Becky to complete this beast of a research project blows my mind even more.
The importance of her research is wild as it connects several concepts that haven’t been combined in the past (in my opinion).
I can’t help but continue to notice similarities between natural phenomena and the actions of individuals and groups; there were some interesting business concepts I was picking up while reading this last chapter.
The final chapter was without a doubt my favorite as it helped tie all of her past chapters together. As I read the past chapters my mind struggled with trying to understand the information. This last chapter helped me see a much more holistic view and then it really clicked for me.
So why am I thankful for “Reading Sediment Nutrient Dynamics In a River Network of a Modified Landscape” today? The conversation we had after reading it was awesome. It was fun bonding with Becky while we talked about her research in more detail as well as other potential research. While I’ve always had a fairly good idea of what she was researching I had a much better understanding which led to better conversation. Spending time engaged in dialogue with her on a topic she’s very passionate about was awesome!
Yes, it took me longer than it should have, but I’m glad I finished reading it regardless. Great information, a source of new ideas, and another way to engage with Becky… Those are all things I am very grateful for!
I’ve mentioned this many times, but it really hit home again this morning. I am so thankful for living in an area I’m so enthralled with. On our run this morning the initial light of the sunrise light up the outline of the bluffs with a vibrant dark purple. The bluffs themselves lay obscured in the black of night, but their edges were clearly visible. The lack of wind made a perfect reflection on the river as we ran past. There was the sound of train and some street lights on the other side of the river. Outside of those very minimal distractions it felt like we were all alone in the countryside. It was one of those incredibly serene moments of feeling completely lost in the wild. On the way back there were more signs of civilization but the rising sun was lighting up the Mississippi River valley. All the clouds were a variety of spectacular bright pinks until they hit the bright green of the trees atop the bluffs on the other side of the unseen river. Living in such an awesome place like this with so much natural beauty makes it so easy to stay positive even during these times. I am so grateful for the decision I made to move to La Crosse over two decades ago.
A while back I wrote a blog talking about watching my mental diet. This plan has not been flawless, but it’s funny how much progress can be made when intentionally living into a certain direction. Over the past couple of weeks I’ve finished a handful of newly started or half finished books. I’ve been more focused on reducing the amount of time spent on my phone and have been working on replacing it with other activity like reading. Seeing my daily phone time drop well below 30 minutes per day has been wild! Seeing the pile of finished books has me smiling even bigger. What a difference a diet can make!
Over the past few weeks I’ve had several opportunities to do some online gaming with a couple of groups of friends on Zoom. I’m really jones-ing for a trip out to hang out with all of them IRL (in real life) and can’t wait for the day to hang out with them again like we used to several times throughout the year. In the meantime I’m so grateful for the opportunity to hang out with them virtually in an environment like this. Being able to interact in real time and seeing the smiles match the laughs is such a comforting feeling. Can’t wait to hangout in person again soon, but I glad to have this time together to tide me over until then.
I was on the road early this morning on my way to up to Eau Claire for work. It’s been a little while since I’d last been up there in person. With the weeks between I found myself enjoying the ride up there. In the car I found quiet time without the radio on, time to think and relax. Seeing the beautiful scenery on the way was great and I was quickly reminded why I take the route I do. Only 4 or 5 months ago I would typically not find myself grateful for the “opportunity” to make the drive. Perspective truly is everything, isn’t it?
Tonight we took Dominic to Stand Up Paddle Board yoga for the first time. What an awesome experience that was! The two of us were chasing each other around on the boards and lightheartedly attempting to knock each other off. I may have taught him the trick of knocking someone’s anchor off the board without them realizing it 😉 Before the yoga even started we were both giggling away and enjoying the time together.
During class we continued to harass each other in our “yoga” voices. I would occasionally splash water on him while he was turned away. He’d make some huge waves while I was in a balance posture. It was so much fun. While it wasn’t the traditional yoga experience it was definitely a father and son experience I appreciate greatly. Sharing something we love with him was great, spending time with him was amazing. I’m so glad he was open minded to attending with us!
One other quick note of gratitude. In final rest while laying flat on my back I couldn’t help but keep my eyes open. Above me was about one of the most beautiful cloudy skies I’ve ever witnessed. The clouds were perfect whips in the air. In one spot they almost swirled into a spiraling shape. It was about as iconic of a Wisconsin summer sky as I could ever dream up.
Throughout COVID we’ve seen a lot of time together as a family. Bike rides, hiking, traveling, walking, playing games, eating, chilling, and so on. It’s been great to have so much time together as an entire family.
Today was a little different in a cool kind of way. I had one on one time with each family member when it was just the two of us. Becky and I had fun on our run this morning and even found a way to make grocery shopping fun. I ran Gavin to Scout Camp for Merit Badge Day and had a great conversation with him. Dominic and I ran a couple of errands in Onalaska with just the two of us. I had time alone with each person.
And that’s what I’m so thankful for today. Family time together in a big group is great and gives us a chance to bond as a family. Family time together alone allows us time to strengthen the individual bonds between each of us. Strengthening those bonds makes the bonds of our entire family even stronger. Today had a beautiful balance of time alone and together.
Today’s been a wild one. I’ve been very excited and upbeat. I’ve been very frustrated. I’ve had great new ideas I’ve implemented. I’ve crashed and burned on a couple of ideas. I’ve made tremendous progress… and run right into unforeseen obstacles. I’ve seen things head the right direction. I’ve seen things slipping away. I’ve had time alone to think. I’ve had very active and productive time. I’ve wasted time. I’ve been physically active at times. I’ve stayed in bed when I should have been riding my bike. I’ve lived.
In writing my blog tonight there were a handful of various directions I could take this. Some positive things that I’m thankful for. Some negative things that I’ve been able to learn from for which I am thankful. As I sit on the couch with my laptop upon my thighs my mind wanders back and forth across the landscape of today. Hills, valleys, mountains, canyons, plains, oceans and islands. I survey the view and do my best to catalog everything I see. What can I learn from? What can I do better? Where have I made progress? What new directions lay ahead? Why was this the path today? So many thoughts and answers cross my brain.
It is a grind to write like this each day. There are some days when it comes so easy, yet I’m left wondering what I’ve left out and what else I should’ve written. Some days are difficult as the gears don’t quite seem to line up. My thoughts are disjointed and don’t quite connect. My writing skills just don’t seem to do justice for my topic. Sometimes I force a topic and it doesn’t feel right. Sometimes I write only once and rush to get it done to move on and don’t take time to appreciate the process. Those days are tough as I know I’m only cheating myself by treating this precious gift, this process, as a box to be checked rather than the beautiful gift to myself it is meant to be.
What I realized was how thankful I am for this process. The simple act of sitting down and writing. In a sea of life it is an island of solitude. Not so much a deserted island to hope to be rescued from, rather a little solo sightseeing adventure. Get off the ship, paddle ashore, hike around, appreciate the experience, and then paddle back to the ship. In this 15-45 minute stretch I’m focused on living more intently towards the life I want to live. I have the opportunity to pause and reflect, learn, adjust the sails, change course slightly, and then move on to the next day. In writing about gratitude each day I give myself the gift of solitude, reflection, learning, and joy. There is no goal, no completion, no end in sight, only the path.
I know, it’s a bit of an unusual post tonight, but it really fits where my headspace is at. I’m truly thankful for this process of daily gratitude as it helps me close the gap between who I am and who I am called to be.
As I re-read Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport I’m continuing to have those “oh yeah, that’s right!” moments. So many ideas that make a ton of sense in living an intentional life. There is so much digital clutter that can collect in our daily life, this book is focused on how to reduce it… To clean out the digital lint filter so to speak.
What’s also very striking to me is the number of ideas that apply to life outside of our digital selves. The idea of focusing on what is most important and developing relationships IRL (in real life). One of the key points is the power of solitude.
As described in the book solitude is when we are free to think on our own, unencumbered by feedback and input from others. This would mean being alone, enjoying quiet, not reading, not texting, and not even listening to music. Solitude is that time when we have time to think and really let ideas, experiences, and concepts sink in. If we constantly have the faucet of input left wide open our brain doesn’t really have time to process and fully utilize what we’ve taken in.
Today during a breakout session in our Express Leadership Academy online retreat there were a handful of great ideas shared by some great cohorts. My mind was racing as they shared their ideas. When the session wrapped up I made the mistake of checking my email and next thing I knew I was headed in a few other directions. Alarm bells rang in my head and I caught my mistake.
Thinking back to what I learned in the book I tapped out and logged off my computer. I left my phone in my office, set an alarm on my watch, and went outside. I pulled up a chair in the sun, closed my eyes, and thought on the ideas. Talk about a wild experience! Not only did my brain work through many of the ideas and truly process them, but I did it in way less time than I’d expected. Having quiet time to shut everything else in the world out and focus was amazing!
This experience really has my mind thinking tonight. How much more can I accomplish by carving out little chunks of time like this? Definitely an experience that I am grateful for and I’ll remember for quite some time.
While Becky and I floated on the giant mat the boys went to work on a couple of projects on the sandbar. Gavin opted for constructing a giant sandcastle. Dominic decided to make a small channel to re-connect a waterway that’d been cut off due to the low water. By the time I figured I should get up and moving they both had made some excellent progress.
I am usually good at relaxing in short bursts and then need to find something to keep me moving. After floating for a while it was time to be active again. I quickly decided to jump in on Dominic’s channel project as it was something we really haven’t done in a really long time.Dominic had already gotten the channel started so I just jumped in and helped him continue growing the project.
Watching the water move and re-deposit the sand was very intriguing to me. The way that it slowly would fill itself back in with sediment really caught my attention. Before long I was experimenting with the water flow to figure out how to optimize and sustain the flow. I was digging channels, bending the waterways, adding an exterior wall to reduce incoming waves for boat traffic, and adding other natural materials to the walls. Learning in mid-flow and seeing both the immediate and long term impacts to the water was pretty wild.
Eventually the boys and I were all working on our various river engineering projects on this channel as well as another. Gavin was experimenting with how to keep a “lake” in the sandbar full of water using wild celery that had washed on shore. Dominic was chasing minnows and smiling while learning how they evade perceived predators. I was continuing to be amazed at how the water continued to slowly fill the waterway with sediment… until I learn to add stiff materials like rock, wood, and wild celery to the mix.
Talk about a fun mental exercise for no reason other learning and fun. I certainly learned a few new things about fluid dynamics and river engineering that I never would’ve learned without experimenting like this. The boys certainly seemed to pick up some new ideas as well, and all while smiling. I am so thankful for their enjoyment of learning in nature like that!
What a wonderful time out on the river having fun and staying unplugged with the family. I am glad we got out early in the day and had the opportunity to hang out together.
This is one of those posts when I don’t know that it’s my place to get into the details. The overarching theme is sufficient for sharing with the world and is what matters. In some way I hope Dominic stumbles across this post many years from now and spends some time thinking back to what it may be related to.
We got to hear some great compliments on well Dominic helped to lead his troop for camp this past week. The stories shared had our hearts busting with pride and joy. He really found ways to make a positive impact on others. He found ways to lead by example. He put others before himself. He exercised his strong work ethic. He showed patience and compassion. What an amazing bunch of compliments!
I continue to be so proud of the young man he has become. It’s interesting seeing him continue to grow into his own personality and focus on what is most important to him. Times like this show us that he’s finding and figurine out his values and living them.
As a parent it was some of the best compliments we could ever ask for. Talk about making my heart sing today!
Dominic, dude, way to truly shine and do right this past week. Your mom and I are so proud of the young man you are and so thankful for how wonderfully you treat others. Keep on this path, keep working hard, and you’ll be able to accomplish anything you put your mind to. Dream it and do it. Love you bud!
Becky had an outstanding idea for our night before we picked up the boys from Scout camp. After an early-ish dinner we headed out to hike the quarry trail on top of the bluffs.
It’s a trail we usually do a few times each year, but typically we do it in the spring or fall. We opted for a side trail that we’d never noticed. There was a field full of wildflowers there was a cool little birch forest. After the trail wound back to the parking lot we went back around on the normal trail. On our way back up we ran into an old friend from yoga and had a wonderful time catching up seeing as we haven’t run into her in a while. We even had some fun joking around at the same rock that we’ve taken many pictures of our boys on.
I am so thankful for the time the two of us had tonight. It was great having time to ourselves to shoot the bull and enjoy nature. We both love this area and spending time outdoors, tonight was one of those moments when I was doing something I love with someone I love who loves doing the same thing. Having quite time in nature chilling with Becky while walking was about as perfect as it gets… Especially when she acts like a big dork sometimes like I’ve been known to do! Watching her ham it up on the rock had me laughing! Another reason we get along so well 😀
After our hiking date we drove up to Camp Deborah to pick the boys up from their week at Scout Camp. Our entire family is incredibly grateful for the Council finding a way to keep camp on while following social distancing guidelines. This was an oasis of relatively normal that our boys definitely needed.
The ride home with them was AWESOME!!! They were talking nonstop about all of the fun they had and their experiences. It was so easy to see that the boys had an excellent time. Hearing about all their fun had Becky and I smiling from ear to ear. There’s not much better in life than knowing my boy had a wonderful time like this. The ride home with them was another moment I’m truly grateful for.