Day 3,870

Growth:

A very timely quote, one from almost two thousand years that still reminds me to pause and center my thoughts, to remember to exercise the one true freedom we each have, the freedom to choose how we react.

“Choose not to be harmed—and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed—and you haven’t been.”

Marcus Aurelius

Appreciation:

This weekend went by in a blur! From Friday’s track meet through this evening it’s been a very go go go focused weekend. Today we got to hear about Gavin’s prom night fun and adventures. Church provided more excitement than normal, all good, a reminder of the importance of emergency response for medical situations. Our campervan is all prepped and ready to roll for the camping season which led to many conversations on camping for Becky and I. Our normal Sunday FaceTime with Dominic was a chance to connect on the past few days and to offer support as continues to grow. Meals were almost all on the grill today, courtesy of a very relaxed grocery store run early in the morning. Throw in a hike in one of our favorite state parks and picking up our WI Annual State Parks pass and it was a solid wrap up to the weekend!

I’m exhausted, but in all the best ways. Off to bed to fire up another nonstop week – hope it was as rewarding as this last one was!

Presence:

There were many moments of presence today, but the ones I found most rewarding all center around my favorite people. Hiking with Becky. Talking with Gavin about prom, and joking with him. FaceTime with Dominic, catching up and being there to help support him and to see how much he’s grown. Three wonderful moments all centered around family!

Thanks!!!

Day 3,869

Growth:

This one kept bouncing in my brain for a variety of reason today. So easy to remember, so simple to consider. such a difficult habit to build.

You don’t have to turn this into something. It doesn’t have to upset you. Things can’t shape our decisions by themselves.

Marcus Aurelius, Meditations 6:52

Appreciation:

Great Saturday of adulting with Becky! Between taking on some stuff in the house in the early morning to hiking with our niece to getting Prom pics of Gavin to running errands to grabbing a dinner for the two of us to relaxing on the couch… There was a lot of talk about the future, ideas for our campervan this summer, seeing what life will be like in the next handful of months, and many reminders of the boys when they were much younger. This seemed like a perfect Saturday to follow up our anniversary on Monday.

Presence:

A moment frozen in time, moved forward 30+ years. Dad teaching me how to wear a tux for prom, what goes where and why. This afternoon it was a change to help Gavin get ready – he already knew a tux, but we were working on ironing a shirt. Father and son moment brings about memory of father and son moment. More moving than I’d expected, so glad Gavin needed a little help on this one.

Thanks!!!

Day 3,867

Growth:

Interesting how many times so many of us all face our own versions of the same challenges? Taking on too much. Losing focus. Letting stress push us towards inaction or wrong action. Being scared rather than open minded. The same challenges in similar ways across all people. Once we realize we are not alone shouldn’t we be able to grant each other more grace and love more easily?

Appreciation:

So amazing how the addition of a strong teammate to a strong team increases the team exponentially! Rather than adding the results of one teammate it’s a seeming ripple effect of everyone improving and growing, like adding that one teammate was more like adding two or three. Adding that same teammate to an average team would likely be like adding one teammate, and adding that teammate to a poor team may raise the level very slightly for a very short period of time, and would likely still end as adding less than one.

Here’s to being on a strong team adding a strong teammate, so much fun to watch everything grow quickly!

Presence:

Pausing life, parking in a quiet place in the woods in the sun with the moonroof open, eating lunch in the stillness, listening to nature all around. A perfect moment of pause amidst a sea of chaos.

Thanks!!!

Day 3,866

Growth:

There is an interesting point we reach when we realize that all we need to truly be happy is already within us. We don’t need things or other people to be joyful, though those certainly don’t hurt. Throughout every situation and challenge we face we have the opportunity to choose joy, to choose our mindset, to choose how we react to the world. When we know that and we remember that life becomes all the brighter!

Appreciation:

Interesting to pause and see the moments when the culture we are working so hard to build really begins to bloom. So much hard work put into getting the seed to take root, seeing the point when it begins to blossom is incredibly rewarding. Certainly not grown to maturity, but to a point where it is clearly visible to see the progress. Such a wonderful reminder that we are on the right path.

Presence:

So many moments of presence today! Running with Becky, catching the flash of a white furry something dashing into the brush as we ran past in the pre-sunrise glow. Taking time to think through some ideas while getting ready for work. Listening to music to loosen my thoughts and relax prior to a sales meeting. Having an epic sales conversation with teammates. Making progress on a few business goals. Running some very simple errands with Becky, talking and enjoying each others company. Relaxing and laughing with Gavin.

Thanks!!!

Day 3,865

Growth:

This quote keeps striking a chord in me, a reminder to pause and enjoy the view of budding leaves on the trees, the dark gray clouds, the scents of Spring, the quiet moments in which there is stillness and calm, the sensation of a light cool breeze blowing across my face from open windows while I’m in the sunlight.

“God does not die on the day we cease to believe in a personal deity. But we die on the day when our lives cease to be illumined by the steady radiance of wonder renewed daily, the source of which is beyond all reason.”

Dag Hammarskjöld

Appreciation:

I’ve likely said something along these lines before, but today it was very much shoved in my face in a way I could not ignore. When something needs to get done, remember to use whichever resource is best suited to take on the challenge. My default is to take it on myself, but that is usually not the right answer. My next instinct is to look to a teammate who has the appropriate skills, and that is often the correct choice.

Today I was reminded, after hours of working on a project, that sometimes a tool is even more effective. After becoming frustrated with my inability to say exactly what I wanted the end product to be which made it impossible for my teammate to build, I tried using ChatGPT to construct the resource I wanted. In less than five minutes it was not only built better than I could have expected, but it was personalized for multiple offices. My mind was blown.

Remember to use ALL the tools at my disposal, don’t just lean on one or two!

Presence:

Today I had the pleasure of being fully present in two large sales meetings with relatively new teammates. Each meeting was of course in an effort to grow our business, but it was also a very unique opportunity to coach and train others in the process. Time ceased to exist as I was in my element, asking questions, considering responses, learning about the challenges the businesses are facing, and then remembering all the way through that I had the second part to play as well, coaching and discussing after the meeting. Those hours disappeared in a flash and I felt very much like I was living into the right purpose.

Thanks!!!

Day 3,864

Two dozen years ago Becky and I exchanged “I Do’s” during the middle of a late Spring snowstorm. The power to our wedding reception was taken out due to the heavy snow taking out the power lines in Medford, WI causing the reception to end early by the light of a zamboni. For clarity, I’m not even joking a little, that all actually happened! The day before was sunny and hot, then the snow started falling before the ceremony and refused to let up until the next morning.

In the two dozen years since we’ve had adventures, excitement, challenges, frustrations, celebrations, highs, lows, added family members, lost family members, made so many memories, traveled all over together, raised two sons, worked through all type of craziness or all flavors – for better and for worse. So fortunate and grateful to have been able to spent these years with someone who encourages me to be the best me possible, pushes me to dream big, and is always willing to head outside for a hike.

So much of what I appreciate can be summarized in the way we celebrated today – waking up early for a run in the rain, joking around as we got ready for work, caught up after work as we ate dinner, started planning a future adventure (Patagonia Pt II), and then off to our weekly Monday Yoga Date Night. Doesn’t get much better than that!

Thanks!!!

Day 3,863

Growth:

Fun fact – I wrote my entries in reverse today and realized I had a theme going – Time! Not the song, the concept of time.

In this case I’m grateful for the second time reading each of my two dozen top books of the year. As I read each for the second time in less than four months I am finding new details, concepts, and connections than I caught in the first round. The additional layers from the recent reading and the inputs of the entire first round of books have shifted my perspective enough to allow a different view. While this was somewhat my goal in reading more deeply, this is already far more insightful than I’d expected!

Appreciation:

So nice having the boys around on and off throughout the weekend! Yesterday was Dominic at the track meet, and all four of us home for dinner and the evening. Today was the four of us for church, off in our separate directions for the afternoon, and then some time all together as a family later in the evening. So much time with the entire family, always feels so awesome having us all together (and with Caitlyn joining us as well)!

Presence:

Having lunch with Becky outside on the deck, relaxing and talking about how crazy it is that we are almost empty nesters. Going for a walk together in the near perfect weather, talking about so many things in life, especially parenting related. So grateful for the quiet time for the two of us to chill and talk, seems like we’ll have more of that in the future as well!

Thanks!!!

Day 3,862

Pretty much a perfect Saturday! Started the day with coffee and chill, a walk with Becky & Leia, and then off to Gavin’s track meet. Hanging out in the perfect weather with Dominic and Caitlyn watching Gavin compete in pole vaulting and the 4x100m relay (their best time of the year). After the meet we hit the grocery store, got some time on the phone with Mom, both boys got home and we all cooked dinner together. Relaxing meal on the deck, board games on the kitchen table, Gavin and I wrapping up the evening with an awful and entertaining movie. Now a few moments of quiet time as I blog and then off to bed.

Doesn’t get much better than this!

Thanks!!!

Day 3,861

Growth:

A concept that really caught my attention today was the “Threshold of Abstraction,” a concept focused on paying attention to that which is most relatable to us based on scale / size. For instance, for us humans, if we shake hands atop a mountain and a couple of our skin cells die in the process we don’t worry about them, they are below our threshold of abstraction. For the skin cells the action is disastrous and means everything to them – specifically their death. For the mountain the humans are irrelevant and unnoticed.

While that example is in the extreme, this hits us in daily life, the choices we make, the things we find to be of interest, the things we never notice. They are all based on what is most important to us, what is within and outside our threshold of abstraction.

Appreciation:

Getting a walk as a family after doing dinner as a family – perfect! Dominic is home from school for the weekend and the four of us had the opportunity to spend most of the evening together. Relaxing on the deck, eating dinner outside, getting a couple of miles of walking in, and then relaxing and joking. Just like old times!

Presence:

For Christmas Becky got me a gift card for a massage, today I cashed it in and had the best massage of my entire life! The entire hour was an exercise in presence, deep breaths, letting go, and allowing the body to get worked and kneaded. So relaxing, so peaceful, so invigorating! Thanks again Becky!!!

Thanks!!!