There were many ways I could have taken my blog tonight. Had I tried to give specifics and details it would never have completely told the story. Sometimes the story gets in the way of its own essence.
From wake up this morning until bed this evening I haven’t picked up my phone once. No email, no calls, no texts, no checking weather, no social media, no news, and no random surfing. It has been on my nightstand all day long and will be there throughout the overwhelming portion of tomorrow.
Throughout the overwhelming majority of the day I was focused on being intentionally present in all I was doing in the moment. I focused on not being nervous, not thinking to the future, not being worried, not thinking about things outside my control, and not letting my mind wander. I was focused on being present in all I did.
They day has been a wild one and there’s been a lot going on. That said, I’ve found deeper calm, deeper meaning, and inner peace that I wouldn’t have had if I wouldn’t have focused on being present in each moment.
Was I perfect in my endeavor? Not by a long shot. I have much improvement in front of me. Did I make progress and grow today? Yes. One step forward, many more to go.
After seeing each of the boys head out on the tube I started to get an idea. Once Nick jumped on with Lauren I saw the idea could hatch into a reality. Against my better judgement I asked Nick if he wanted to hop on the tube like we did back in the good ol’ days when we were kids. Jennifer hit the throttle and we were off!
Between all the bouncing from wave to wave I learned a few things:
Re-living childhood memories can be a blast, albeit a little uncomfortable
My back hasn’t quite bend like that in many years
I don’t remember all of my body parts hurting that much when I was younger
No matter how hard I dug my toes into the water behind me they were no match for the power of the boat motor
Even after 40 years of knowing each other Nick and I can still talk each other into fun/bad ideas
Shared suffering with a brother can also be an awesome source of laughter
It’s fun to act like a big kid
Something else I’m thankful for? Getting back on the boat in the same condition as when I got on the tube. Funny, thirty years ago that wasn’t even a thought. Today it something I’m grateful for.
Throughout the day we’ve had a ton of family time which has been awesome. Occasionally there’ve been some moments of downtime. In those quiet moments I’ve reached for one of my favorite books – Essentialism by Greg McKeown. If I could only read a half dozen non-fiction for the rest of my life it would be one. Sometimes I’m a slow learner and I need to read, re-read, re-re-read, and re-re-re-read books to let them start to sink in completely. Honestly, I’m not even sure how many times I’ve read Essentialism, but I know it is four at minimum. Each time different things hit me a little deeper than before. I’ve enjoyed seeing points where I’ve made progress as well as finding next areas of weakness to target. The whole mindset is very much a process and re-re-re-reading it is helping me continue to stay on the path.
The funny part is that this time its been because of what I’ve learned from this book that I have time to read it! By eliminating the nonessential (mindless tapping and swiping on my phone) I’ve created more space in my life to read.
One of my tactics for reducing my phone screen time is to keep a book with me at almost all times. When there’s a pause and I feel the gravity to reach for my phone I instead reach for my book. It’s crazy how much more reading I’ve been doing via this process!
Today I grabbed my copy of The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday. When I opened up to my most recent bookmark there was a mind blowing quote that really resonated with me.
Problems are rarely as bad as we think – or rather, they are precisely as bad as we think.
It’s a huge step forward to realize to happen is never the event, but the event AND losing your head. Because then you’ll have two problems (one of them unnecessary and post hoc).
With all that is going on in the world I can’t help but think of how many times I’ve gotten worked up, fired up, or angry over something out of my control – or worse, something that hasn’t even happened yet. How often have I lost my cool and lost my head? How much extra stress did I bring upon myself (and unintentionally to others) as a result of creating a worse situation than what I originally faced?
The next time something unexpectedly goes wrong this will be one of the first things to cross my mind… the mind I will intentionally choose to keep during the challenge.
Sometimes I have to censor my blogs for professional reasons – today is one of those days. That said, I’m confident I can make my point while staying within the lines of professionalism.
Over the past few days I’ve been interviewing many candidates for a new position. In those conversations there have been a few who have stuck out in incredibly positive ways. High energy, positive attitudes, histories of success, excellent examples of both growth mindset and grit. The conversations went so well I felt like I was talking with someone who was already on our team. They could see where we wee going and the conversation flowed like I was talking with a teammate and friend. Those interviews all left me feeling energized, excited, and even more confident in our future. I’m grateful for all of those excellent interviews this week!
Hmm… What am I thankful for today? My mind is kind of feeling like mush as it’s been kind of nonstop since I woke up this morning. The morning flew past in a turbulent confluence of phone interviews, prep, calls, brainstorming sessions, planning, and everything in between. The rest of workday kept up that breakneck pace as I plowed through a task list that seems to keep growing faster. That said, I really like where this is all leading to. We’ve got a handful of excellent things rolling that are going to be very awesome in a matter of a few weeks. It almost feels like the building pressure before a wicked summer storm… the pressure builds into a crescendo, hits hard, and then leaves the world more green, beautiful, clean, and cool. I just need to batten down the hatches (and sneak a few peaks at the strength of the storm to enjoy viewing its power) and know this is all for the one term good.
All that said, it’s been a fun day. After work we ate, ran to the grocery store and got everything done around the house. While I type this is the first time I’ve sat down and enjoyed the sound of quiet all day. After typing that sentence I just realized I sat here and just listened to the sound of the crickets for a moment or so. How relaxing to hear the sounds of nature through open windows while enjoying a moment of silence?
I know I’m rambling a bit here, but I think what I’m most grateful for today is taking the time to pause, think, reflect, and type my blog tonight. It’s a brief respite to stop and collect my thoughts.It’s time for me to process all that’s gone on today and put meaning to it, to draw meaning from it, and to learn from the day. These moments of peace are when my mind has the quiet to think and my soul has the serenity to be present. There are no demands on me or my time, the only task to complete is to consider the day and all the things I am grateful for in it. The sound of this quiet peace is a beautiful thing.
One other thing that I’m very thankful for today has started happening a little more and more often recently. Old friends and acquaintances have kind of come out of the blue to talk strategy and life. Each has been a very welcome addition to my day and I’m thankful for those rekindled connections. They inspire me to remember to utilize my time for the right things and to connect with people via real conversation instead of social media dialogue. Social media is easier, but conversation is better. In all cases it’s amazing how our dialogue flows right back into the same old rhythms, kind of like riding a bicycle. They’ve all added an extra touch of joy to my life and I grateful for them.
So there we have it, another day, more things to be grateful for. I’m so blessed to have this time to think and be, to have a life filled with busyness building towards some great things, and to reconnect with past colleagues.
It can be so easy to focus on the obstacles we are all facing with COVID. Things are not normal. We aren’t able to do many of the things we love in quite the same way we used to. We aren’t able to readily hang out in person with the loved ones we’d like to spend time with like we could only five months ago. The gravitational pull towards the obstacle is so great sometimes. It takes a strong will and effort in order to stay positive and find a solution.
Isn’t it inspiring when you see people and businesses finding solutions instead of being frustrated? Their positive and optimistic spirit lift us all up and remind us to abandon negativity. They stop, think, and find a way to get back to a “new” form of normal. When I see someone persevere and create their own path like this I can’t help but pause and wonder think about the mental obstacles I cower at. How can I be like them and find a way to be successful? What do I need to look at just a little differently to find a way to create success? How can I muster up the positivity and optimism they used to push through and persevere?
And this is where I have to give huge kudos to Mandy, Nick and the entire Root Down Yoga Studio family.
Root Down is where Becky and I used to go somewhere between 1-2 times per week (depending on the boys’ activities during the week). Their heated studio was a place of deep serenity for us. A place we could have our yoga date nights. An opportunity to decompress after a long day of adulting. An awesome all around workout that left us a sweaty, yet very relaxed, puddle. A place where we made new friends and had fun interactions. A place of inspiration and deep thought. That heated area is a place in La Crosse we totally are in love with and can’t wait to get back to.
If you know Root Down even a little it’s no surprise that they have followed every guideline and best practice in order to keep everyone as healthy as possible. When there could no longer be classes indoors they pivoted and started offering an online class on the weekends that people could Zoom in for. They did that to keep cash coming in, right? Nope! They donate 100% of the class donations to local nonprofits across the area? How incredible is that? Becky gets her weekly yoga inside (I struggle to focus doing it in the house) thanks to Root Down’s willingness to find a way to continue. You can check out their next class at: https://www.facebook.com/rootdownyogastudio/
For the folks like me who struggle at home they started doing classes OUTSIDE at local parks. Very strict social distancing rules are in place at all times and the numbers of classmates are very limited (be sure to sign up early!). As someone living in a high risk household I haven’t for one second felt even remotely nervous being in those classes. Not only does it give me an opportunity to have yoga again it also blends so much of what we miss from being inside – interaction with the class and the teachers. Having a real life instructor coaching us from the front makes all the difference for me. For the 60 minute practice I don’t even know that COVID exists. It’s a very welcomed reprieve from all that’s going on in the world. It makes a huge impact on my emotional well being and I feel so much more relaxed after going.
I’m so thankful for Root Down’s willingness to stay positive, stay upbeat, and find a way to keep offering yoga. They inspire me to remember to find ways to create awesomeness when I run into an obstacle. Mandy, Nick, and the rest of the Root Down family – thank you for being such outstanding human beings and bringing joy to our lives!
I’d be remiss to not give a HUGE shoutout and thank you to Pam. She’s been our instructor quite a bit recently and her coaching and instruction is AWESOME!!! Pam is always upbeat, outgoing, smiling, and so easy to talk with. One of the things I specifically appreciate is her willingness to push me past where I think I can go. There have been more than a few times when she’s helped me stretch further or hold longer than I normally would have. This evening she totally busted me dogging it and talked me into getting both legs straight up in the air doing tripod. Coaches who push us just past the edge of what we thought possible yet not so far that we fall are the best in the world. Pam – dude, thank so being such an awesome coach, a source of positivity, for smiling constantly, and for pushing me. I appreciate it greatly!
Where do I start today? Throughout the day I’ve been smiling and laughing, productive and relaxed. I stayed in the moment and also took time to dream of the future. I feel very satisfied today in all aspects of life. Not too shabby!
After all the heat and humidity we’ve had recently the gloomy sweatshirt weather felt amazing. Waking up to the clouds was kind of nice, they let me sleep in a little longer than normal. We spent much more time than normal on the deck enjoying the fresh air. Going for our evening walk while wearing a long sleeve shirt was a welcome change of pace.
This morning I spent some time getting some things done for work while Becky completed her yoga session. I was largely focused on finishing up a presentation for our team on our last chapter of Mindset. Spending time right away in the morning thinking on a growth mindset versus a fixed mindset really got my head in a great place. Having a little humor mixed in made it even more fun.
The three of us spent some time cleaning the house. We were all doing something different, but still working together with the music of Bruce Springsteen as a wonderful soundtrack. The act of cleaning felt almost therapeutic. Being productive and seeing the immediate results provided a great sense of accomplishment.
After lunch and a couple of errands we played some games out on the deck. The temperature was perfect. The time spent together was filled with smiles, laughs, and small talk. There may have been some Nerf guns utilized for squirrel removal, but I can neither confirm nor deny that.
We all kind of split off and did our own things for a while after games. Dominic had a Scout meeting and Becky and I each found some relaxing things to keep us busy. We made supper and ate as a family right back on the deck before heading out for our nightly tradition of a walk.
Once home we wrapped up some other stuff and fired up a movie. Becky didn’t make it all the way through, but she was laughing with us until she headed off to bed. Dominic and I continued to laugh until a few minute ago before I started typing. It was great to relive old stories and memories while seeing just how much of some of them he’s already either started or will be living in the not too distant future.
Now it’s off to bed and then wake up for a run and start the week. I’m looking forward to work tomorrow, to my day tomorrow, and to everything. My soul is totally at peace in a subtle way that feels amazing. That’s something I can be very grateful for today.
This afternoon I finished reading the last chapter of Becky’s PhD thesis. Several facts were readily apparent:
Becky is ridiculously intelligence in science is readily apparent – though her judgement in choice of spouse is still questionable 😉
In order to even begin to understand what she researched I needed to read each sentence a minimum of two times.
The work ethic, rigor, and grit it took for Becky to complete this beast of a research project blows my mind even more.
The importance of her research is wild as it connects several concepts that haven’t been combined in the past (in my opinion).
I can’t help but continue to notice similarities between natural phenomena and the actions of individuals and groups; there were some interesting business concepts I was picking up while reading this last chapter.
The final chapter was without a doubt my favorite as it helped tie all of her past chapters together. As I read the past chapters my mind struggled with trying to understand the information. This last chapter helped me see a much more holistic view and then it really clicked for me.
So why am I thankful for “Reading Sediment Nutrient Dynamics In a River Network of a Modified Landscape” today? The conversation we had after reading it was awesome. It was fun bonding with Becky while we talked about her research in more detail as well as other potential research. While I’ve always had a fairly good idea of what she was researching I had a much better understanding which led to better conversation. Spending time engaged in dialogue with her on a topic she’s very passionate about was awesome!
Yes, it took me longer than it should have, but I’m glad I finished reading it regardless. Great information, a source of new ideas, and another way to engage with Becky… Those are all things I am very grateful for!
I’ve mentioned this many times, but it really hit home again this morning. I am so thankful for living in an area I’m so enthralled with. On our run this morning the initial light of the sunrise light up the outline of the bluffs with a vibrant dark purple. The bluffs themselves lay obscured in the black of night, but their edges were clearly visible. The lack of wind made a perfect reflection on the river as we ran past. There was the sound of train and some street lights on the other side of the river. Outside of those very minimal distractions it felt like we were all alone in the countryside. It was one of those incredibly serene moments of feeling completely lost in the wild. On the way back there were more signs of civilization but the rising sun was lighting up the Mississippi River valley. All the clouds were a variety of spectacular bright pinks until they hit the bright green of the trees atop the bluffs on the other side of the unseen river. Living in such an awesome place like this with so much natural beauty makes it so easy to stay positive even during these times. I am so grateful for the decision I made to move to La Crosse over two decades ago.
Not from today but in the same area…
A while back I wrote a blog talking about watching my mental diet. This plan has not been flawless, but it’s funny how much progress can be made when intentionally living into a certain direction. Over the past couple of weeks I’ve finished a handful of newly started or half finished books. I’ve been more focused on reducing the amount of time spent on my phone and have been working on replacing it with other activity like reading. Seeing my daily phone time drop well below 30 minutes per day has been wild! Seeing the pile of finished books has me smiling even bigger. What a difference a diet can make!
Over the past few weeks I’ve had several opportunities to do some online gaming with a couple of groups of friends on Zoom. I’m really jones-ing for a trip out to hang out with all of them IRL (in real life) and can’t wait for the day to hang out with them again like we used to several times throughout the year. In the meantime I’m so grateful for the opportunity to hang out with them virtually in an environment like this. Being able to interact in real time and seeing the smiles match the laughs is such a comforting feeling. Can’t wait to hangout in person again soon, but I glad to have this time together to tide me over until then.
I was on the road early this morning on my way to up to Eau Claire for work. It’s been a little while since I’d last been up there in person. With the weeks between I found myself enjoying the ride up there. In the car I found quiet time without the radio on, time to think and relax. Seeing the beautiful scenery on the way was great and I was quickly reminded why I take the route I do. Only 4 or 5 months ago I would typically not find myself grateful for the “opportunity” to make the drive. Perspective truly is everything, isn’t it?
Tonight we took Dominic to Stand Up Paddle Board yoga for the first time. What an awesome experience that was! The two of us were chasing each other around on the boards and lightheartedly attempting to knock each other off. I may have taught him the trick of knocking someone’s anchor off the board without them realizing it 😉 Before the yoga even started we were both giggling away and enjoying the time together.
Definitely not from today 🙂
During class we continued to harass each other in our “yoga” voices. I would occasionally splash water on him while he was turned away. He’d make some huge waves while I was in a balance posture. It was so much fun. While it wasn’t the traditional yoga experience it was definitely a father and son experience I appreciate greatly. Sharing something we love with him was great, spending time with him was amazing. I’m so glad he was open minded to attending with us!
One other quick note of gratitude. In final rest while laying flat on my back I couldn’t help but keep my eyes open. Above me was about one of the most beautiful cloudy skies I’ve ever witnessed. The clouds were perfect whips in the air. In one spot they almost swirled into a spiraling shape. It was about as iconic of a Wisconsin summer sky as I could ever dream up.
Throughout COVID we’ve seen a lot of time together as a family. Bike rides, hiking, traveling, walking, playing games, eating, chilling, and so on. It’s been great to have so much time together as an entire family.
Today was a little different in a cool kind of way. I had one on one time with each family member when it was just the two of us. Becky and I had fun on our run this morning and even found a way to make grocery shopping fun. I ran Gavin to Scout Camp for Merit Badge Day and had a great conversation with him. Dominic and I ran a couple of errands in Onalaska with just the two of us. I had time alone with each person.
Not from today 😉
And that’s what I’m so thankful for today. Family time together in a big group is great and gives us a chance to bond as a family. Family time together alone allows us time to strengthen the individual bonds between each of us. Strengthening those bonds makes the bonds of our entire family even stronger. Today had a beautiful balance of time alone and together.
Thankful for Forty 