Maybe you know the feeling? You prep for a conversation and as you do you realize that maybe the other party is out to get you. Maybe they want to start a fight or have unrealistic expectations.
I’m sad to admit that as I prepped today this is immediately where my brain went. Thinking about the worst case scenarios I got myself all types of worked up, and then dreamt up even more elaborate plots! It was terrible!
At one point I paused and this insight flashed in my brain… maybe it will go very well… maybe we are going to work this out… as I contemplated this I went through the positives I could expect from this encounter. Maybe they weren’t “out to get me,” and we’d have s very positive conversation.
As I began the conversation I was very calm and optimistic. I was assuming the best, and I had already prepared for the worst should it come to that. And guess what? The conversation went fantastic! Had I started from assuming the worst I truly believe there would have been a very different outcome.
While it’s good to prepare for the worst I know I still need to work on assuming the best as my first response. That’s definitely a gap between who I am and who I want to be. All that said, in very thankful that I remembered to assume the best of intentions, it truly served me well today.