When I started writing this blog 999 days ago I was focused on adding more joy to my life. The thought was that by being more thankful and sharing that gratitude in a very public way it would help hold me more accountable to writing daily. Looking back it’s easy to see that in many ways this blog started by being all about me. How many times did I just use “I” or “me” when talking about the start of this blog?
What I quickly found was that this passed and the motivation and inspiration to continue shifted to two of my favorite people on Earth… my boys. Before I knew it this became a way for me to share with them. As I started opening my eyes to just how much this could bring them joy in the future the boys quickly became the ongoing inspiration for my daily blog. Each day is an opportunity to share a wonderful memory, my pride in them, life lessons, choosing to live a joyful life, and the beauty of gratitude.
There have been countless ties when I’ve either stumbled across an old post and started laughing at the memory that it reminds me of. With the boys in mind it inspires me to blog about those moments that will put a smile on their face when they happen across an old post. Sure, we each have so many memories, but it’s nice knowing that they’ll have a tool to help jump start some of those memories.
There have been many blogs when I’ve posted about how proud I am of the boys. They often directly inspire the content of the post for the day in that manner. Sometimes it’s an award or an accomplishment, other times it’s in a failure in which they learned a valuable lesson, and others are when they stay true to their values. In each of those moments I want them to not only hear how proud I am of them, but I want them to have something to look back on. So often in life we run into challenging situations that shake up our self confidence, the boys inspire me to help leave nuggets for them to find to help them through tough times. My hope is that they are able to read an old blog that helps to kick start their confidence and remind them of past experiences and lessons that can help them through anything.
Speaking of life lessons, they inspire me to share the life lessons I continue to learn. Sometimes I wonder if I’m the only one going through something specific and that can feel lonely. The boys inspire me to help them see that they are not alone. They also inspire me to share some of the really tough things, my faults, the big mistakes, the things that I’m embarrassed of. It is because of my boys that I share those humbling lessons as I want them again to see that they are not alone. I hope they find the strength they need to not only help themselves deal with their own faults and mistakes, but to also help their families in the same way. There are also so many life lessons that I’ve learned from my parents and loved ones, I often wish I had a book with all of them to refer back to that was complete with the stories and emotions they felt. Memory is a wonderful thing, but memories coupled with resources are even better. Whenever you read a blog post that you can guess was difficult for me to write about you can know without question it was inspired by my boys and my love for them.
Every moment of every day we all have a choice to make, “will I be happy or something else?” It is up to us to make that decision, knowingly or not, all the time. This blog has been inspired so many times by my boys as they remind of this lesson. Often they are totally immersed in the moment and find joy and inspires me to do the same. Occasionally I find myself in a shitty mood and realize that my boys are watching me. In those moments they inspire me to be the best possible version of me in order to be a better role model for them. They also inspire me to write about the times that I have to choose happiness. I want them to know that happiness doesn’t just happen. Sometimes life throws you a curveball, punches you in the nose, or slaps you upside the head. When that happens it’s easy to go into auto pilot and be angry, BUT we all have a choice to make in that moment. My boys inspire me to choose to find a way to be happy because I want them to see that they can make the same choice in those difficult times. This blog helps me show the that it takes hard work and discipline to find the positive in any situation. It’s an awesome example of the boys inspiring me to be better and to write to help them be better as well.
Lastly, as I explained yesterday, my parents helped me see the beauty of gratitude and taking time to be thankful. Knowing that my boys are always watching, listening and observing inspires me to share my gratitude so they can develop the same value. When they do things like write their own “gratitude list” it warms my heart to see that they are getting it. Since I’ve started blogging I’ve seen them become more thankful and it inspires me to keep driving the point home even more. Of all the values I hold dear in my life gratitude is pretty much the foundation from which everything else grows. This blog is inspired by my desire to share this value with my boys so completely so that they may find joy in every possible moment of their lives.
There are some days when I think about quitting this task. It takes a lot of time, it’s really putting myself out there, and can be tough sometimes. In those moments I look at Dominic and Gavin. They smile at me and I’m immediately reminded of why I am writing this blog day after day. They are the inspiration and motivation for this blog and I am so thankful to have them in my life.
My boys inspire me to blog, to be a better dad, and to be a better man… and that’s something that I am eternally thankful for.